My guess is that you really don’t stare at the sun.
Because you already know its a bad idea!
There are a ton of bad ideas out there, and that one is just the tip of the iceberg.
I am guessing that you have taken action on more than one of your past bad ideas and perhaps you are even feeling guilty for it… even if it happened a month ago, a year ago or even 10 years ago.
You probably keep telling yourself some sort of story of how you did xyz and that made you a bad person.
Or you had xyz habit and if people ever found out then the world would come crashing down. (rumble crumble crashing sound effects)
Guess what… the story you are telling yourself is like an anchor keeping your little dingy out in the ocean of desolation and despair… and I am guessing that you have told your story repeatedly to your friends and your family… and eek… even your children.
Don’t do what dad did when he was a young lad or else you will end up just not quite making it… you will do better than I did… moaning, don’t be like me…
So long as you continue to act like this, rolling around on the ground clutching your blanky and telling this story… it will stay your story.
You don’t have to stay in this space… you have an amazing set of tools RIGHT at your fingertips… this very INSTANT!
REFRAME that shit… what was really happening? What is a fresh perspective you could put on that story?
Was it ALL your fault? Was it ALL her fault? Does it REALLY even MATTER at all? Was it just a small thing to cling onto because even if it was YOUR fault, you were taking EVERYONE down with you!
You don’t think like this… you are a kind and gentle person, with intentions of nothing but the best for everyone… there is a great chance that you were misunderstood… the words came out wrong…
Her story is probably similar, perhaps she had a bad day at work… some jackenheimer was hitting on her at work and it just put her in such a shitty all men are jerks mood…
It doesn’t take much these days to spin it all out of control because of the stress that you put on yourself to succeed, to show your spouse, your family, your children etc that you have what it takes to push it to the next level, but you just can’t figure out why you dipkeep spinning your wheels in the dirt.
This much is true… it’s not your backstory… its not the lines of cocaine you did in the bathroom, the joint you smoked over Mardis Gras or that one time you did the one thing that you will never utter to anyone… no one knows that one.
Here are two quick examples of how I am certain that it is not your back story keeping you from achieving what you want to achieve:
Jay Shetty – if you haven’t heard of this guy yet, you will soon, first of all, because I am telling you about him right now. Not only that, but there is a link to his full story below.
Short version – essentially an English bad boy, who hung out with gangsters and the like in his teens.
Jay lost two of his best friends when he was 16, one in a car accident and the other due to gang violence.
Jay meets a monk at age 18 who inspires him to think of life in a different manner. One with purpose and meaning.
He graduates with honors from his business school after studying behavorial science at the age of 22, and then dips into being a monk for the next three years.
He comes back to the land of business after his friends ask him to speak about his way of living as a monk… the meditation in extreme conditions (hot & cold), mind control (his own) and breathing control in order to combat stresses of the everyday world.
And somewhere along the way becomes a viral sensation and continues to speak and have an impact worldwide.
The other guy – President George Bush Jr. – Look, the guy was a party animal in college, had two DUI’s and still became president of the USA for EIGHT freaking years… sure he had some connections, but sheesh… come on…
Look all I am saying here is that most of us have a back story that we could cling onto and tell ourselves that we can’t make it because…
What I am telling you is that you can also reframe that story and use it to your advantage… what did you learn in those incidents?
Those are the incidents that molded you, shaped you into the bad ass that you are today, have NO DOUBTS about that… none.
Ok now… where are we and what are we doing…
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I will continue the deep dive into this book and one of the biggest reasons to do so is that the more you teach something the more you learn about it.
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Recently Finished Reading:
Only Dead on the Inside: A parents guide to Surviving the Zombie Apocalypse – James Breakwell (Exploding Unicorn) I will be interviewing him 5/27 9 PM EST – keep an eye out on FB Page https://www.facebook.com/fatherhoodfortherestofus/
Friday Nigh Lights for Fathers & Daughters – 10 Life Lessons. 10 Faith Driven Episodes. Liftime Memories – Mark LaMaster (interview here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKdcGTrtS4s)
Parenting with Love & Logic
My wife Meg & I have begun to do a little morning show on Saturdays. Catch the latest one here: